Most people’s problems, pain, depression, anxiety, and addiction are far too complex to be healed my mere human efforts and methodology. True healing is always from the hand of God. Of the main ministries of the Holy Spirit is functioning in our lives as “Counselor”. Only He brings deep inward healing. Thus, we rely heavily on the presence of The Holy Spirit of God, through Jesus Christ, to act as the Great Physician and the Bible (His Word) as our guide as we coach, counsel, and teach someone how to break the bondage of being a victim–into the freedom of being a victor in Christ.

 

“We Were Family Before Ministry”

Ending Competition, Racism, Sexism, and Healing the wounded with One Revelation

My sister (in-law/ BFF) and I love the Voxer app. It’s an audio walkie talkie app that we use to chat, pray, and make one another laugh all day. As busy moms, we function using apps but it’s not what connects us. Prayer and our passion for Jesus binds our hearts together. We both have three children and are very alike in how we process the world’s problems. I knew when she walked into the room with my brother-in-law years ago; she was going to be family. ( Although she didn’t know it yet) I told her when they were dating, with tongue-in-cheek, that if he didn’t marry her, I’d disown him and adopt her. God gave me such a passion for seeing her know Him deeply. Now, she travels and serves in the ministry; when we are together, I introduce her has my sister —not my sister-in-law; or with a ministry title. It is so much fun to watch the expressions on the faces of people. 

 

Why? She has a lot more melanin than I do. Yep, she’s black, and I’m white. But we are sisters! 

 It’s not the personality or natural ties that make us family; although we have a blast together. If you hear her tell it, she was quite intimidated by my fire for Jesus when she first met me. Eventually, she was ablaze and hungry because of Jesus’s love for her. I’m not that great, but for some reason, my hunger for Jesus makes others hungry, so I’ve been told.

  On Voxer one day, we were discussing the pains of broken relationships and misplaced lingo used in current streams of ministry. We didn’t think about the connection between the misplaced lingo and reconciliation issues. We talked about guarding our hearts, keeping prayer and family at the forefront as ministry work is increasing. 

(She’s quite the inner-healing guru- she is always analyzing the root of issues to understand why there is bad fruit. She’s pretty awesome. You need to know her.)  

FAMILY & RECONCILIATION:

LINGO OR A

THIS IS OUR FAMILY!

UNBREAKABLE BOND? 

Sometimes the word family is used to identify commonality instead of a deep bond in Christ that stands through the storms of life. Relationship in the body of Christ is often predicated on ministry affiliation, skin tone, gender, denomination, and the like; making the need to define our use of the word family even more urgent. 

The issues in our society like racism are rooted in sin and the fallen nature of humanity. All evil stems from the sin nature. As Christians, we say that Jesus is the answer, and we are His representatives. Absolutely! Truth, but we need to step up our game and grab ahold of Jesus’s intercession for oneness in John 17. Also let us intercede for the true manifestation of John 13:35

35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

 

Broken Family in the Church Culture

Prayer alone has a way of binding hearts spiritually, but also we must weep with one another, rejoice with one another, eat with one another, and help one another. Heart motivation is key! When I’m with my sister, we are not looking at one another’s skin tone or background. We don’t care about our past differences we see our likenesses in Christ. We are truly family. 

Serving one another is from the motivation of love not out of obligation to an organization or club. 

Jesus gave us the ministry of reconciliation. 

Reconciliation removes from within our hearts the worldly point of view. We are new creations in Christ- together. 

His healing work made us family. 

“14 For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died.15 And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.

16 So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer.17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ,the new creation has come:[a]The old has gone, the new is here!18 All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation:19 that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation.20 We are therefore Christ’s ambassadors, as though God were making his appeal through us. We implore you on Christ’s behalf: Be reconciled to God.21 God made him who had no sin to be sin[b]for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.” (2 Corinthians 5:14-21)

Taking Back the Word Family and Healing the Wounded

I’ll repeat it: Family has nothing to do with organized ministry! 

In my life, the word family represents strength and unmovable relationship. I have parents that stayed together through the worst and best of times. Conflict and confrontation were not pretty, but with understanding and forgiveness, it made the family stronger. 

 CHURCH!

Spiritual bonds in Christ should supersede natural relationships. 

It profoundly pains my soul how those who once enjoyed being a family in a church or ministry walk away bitter as the seasons or circumstances change. My parents didn’t break up when their business or jobs changed. They didn’t disown me or get offended when I grew up, moved out, got married, and started a family of my own. 

They celebrated these changes as milestones. 

My father didn’t set speaking limitations on me because I am a girl. He didn’t sit me in a different part of the home because my hair and skin were lighter than my brother’s. That would be absurd. But some experienced natural family as abusive and painful. ( I am so sorry this breaks my heart… Keep reading) 

My sister and I discussed how the word family might not be as healing as we intended it. Therefore, we need a reformation! 

True Family Sees No Color or Gender

“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.” Galatians 3:28  

Racism or sexism is not the issue sin is! 

Many people’s natural association with mother, fathers, siblings, and such, seasoned with brokenness, is more of a wound than healing balm. We must see the healing that is desperately needed. We must resist the desire to cut one another off or become superficial because of differences. Jesus was drastically different from his disciples, yet he laid down His deity and life to identify with the weakness of man.

“But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men” Philippians 2:7 

Ministry or Similarities are Not the Ties that Bind- Jesus Is

There is nothing wrong with drawing close to people that you ‘”click” with especially when you are hungry to grow closer to the Lord. I love hanging with people who are fiery, love truth, and love to pray! I want everyone to be on fire and I love begin around people who are on fire. 

I say all the time: 

“I don’t want people to just come watch me burn I want people to burn with me.” 

But, I keep people around me that are very different from me purposely. Not to be religiously correct, but I long to increase my ability to see like Jesus sees and love as He loves. Being around people from different backgrounds opens our eyes to the many facets of the beauty of God! 

Breaking the Ministry Family Association 

  • If you have been hurt by the ministry or church and have disassociated yourself. Allow the Lord to heal that place of brokenness. You need the Body of Christ as crazy as it might be!
  • If you are a ministry leader and have cut people off or formed biases because they are not the same as you and your denomination, race, nationality, or gender, repent. Seek the heart of God!
  • If we are going to see true revival, we must get this right in the church culture first. 
  • If you are trying to get it right but have been misunderstood, you are in good company. Jesus was misunderstood too! Keep pressing into His heart. 

The ministry we lead is ever-changing, but the message or Messenger never does. We must learn to minister to God before we minister to man. We must get His heart. When we are lead by the Spirit of God, we must yield to His voice moment to moment. We must stay tender before Him and allow Him to search and tenderize our hearts. 

Anyone noted for their faith within the pages of the Scriptures radically obeyed, and their acts benefited others more than themselves. We must always be willing to work with our hands open. Real family in Christ is not rooted in commonality, ministry organizations or church memberships, but the bond of Christ.

I cry out for the broken today. Will you cry out with me and allow the Lord to search your heart and heal it? Will you forgive those who hurt you? You are not family because you are the same as someone else, not because you are a member of the same church or network but because of Jesus you are a child of God. He has given us the ministry of reconciliation.

Can we contend for a movement of family and repent of our discord in the body of Christ! It’s time for an awakening! 

Matthew 5: 23-24

Therefore if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar.First go and be reconciled to your brother ;then come and offer your gift.

Sometimes to get freedom, there is war first.

Have you ever heard the phrase, “Hurt people hurt people”? It’s true.

After a conversation with my leader a couple of weeks ago, I found myself in an all too-familiar cycle. I replayed the sentences in my mind, appalled at what was said. I was offended because i was hearing and seeing through a lens of threat. My entire being was in a constant state of bracing itself in certainty of the next hurt from a person or situation. Much like a porcupine with his quills engaged, I was living in a perpetual state of defensiveness to keep from getting hurt.

Troubling thoughts continued to swirl as bits of the conversation looped in my mind. Finally, I thought it best to write an email of what I thought about the conversation, along with various other “opinions”. The oppression and condemnation was so heavy, I could barely function.

What was happening to me?

I cried out to the Lord, as I randomly googled the words “spirit of trauma” without really thinking. I found a trustworthy source and began reading. This minister had over 30 years of experience setting people free from trauma. Something this minister said prompted me to look up the scripture where Jesus healed the boy from seizures. I looked it up and read it (Luke 9:37-43). As I read it, I immediately thought of my cousin who has had epilepsy all his life. I also knew that I often found myself trying to complete certain tasks, and would just freeze up with mental and emotional blockages.

When I was young, I remember my mechanically-inclined dad talk about motors that would be “seized up” or “froze up” which meant they would not function at all; the parts would not turn. If you look the up the word seize on websters.com, seizing means to bind, to take prisoner, to overwhelm physically. At that moment, I knew that not only had I personally gone through some horrific trauma in my own life, but this was a generational situation. I knew I must get free from this. I also knew once I received freedom, I had the key to freeing others.

The next afternoon, our church family had a cookout and saw my leader for the first time since I sent that email. I repented to her, told her that I knew what was happening, and shared with her what the Lord showed me.

Engulfed in flames

That night after everyone ate, prayer broke out in the kitchen. I remember my leader praying against trauma for another lady, then she turned and looked at me. I saw fire in her eyes as she said, “You have the anointing to set people free from trauma! That is the call on your life!” She put her hand on my head. I was engulfed in flames as I dropped to the floor in tears.

That night, I experienced deliverance from trauma and a level of freedom I never experienced before. I finally knew what it meant to abide in that peace that Philippians talks about; that peace that surpasses all understanding that guards my heart and mind! I am able to experience a joy I could not experience before. All it took was for me to be in willing surrender to the Lord, no matter what it looked like, or who was watching.

The Lord’s justice is rendered against the enemy when a person is set free and they set others free. I would love to pray for you to receive the same freedom in Christ!

After all,

Is not this the kind of fasting I have chosen:

To loose the chains of injustice

and untie the cords of the yoke,

to set the oppressed free

And break every yoke? — Isaiah 58:6 NIV

By Angie Woodard

 

 

 

 

DESPERATE

deperate in prayer

 

Often when we are desperate and weak, we call on someone whom we consider a prayer warrior to say ” I need you to pray for me!” Then we pour out our frustration and aching hearts before them.

 

Desperation is beautiful to the Lord and He loves when we are vulnerable enough to ask for prayer. He loves when we bear one another’s burdens” (Galatians 6:2) He loves when we acknowledge our weakness, for in doing so He can be our strength! But, often in our weakness, we run to other people before we go “Boldly to the Throne of Grace” for ourselves. (See Hebrews 4:16) We often feel too weak, weary, ashamed, or just don’t know how to pray about certain situations. He loves when we come to Him and to others  bold, broken and admittedly not having eloquent words. It is a beautiful thing when someone lifts that burden before the Lord for us! But, there is One who will pray not just for us, but with us and through us!  He will also work deep inner healing in us as He prays, but we must let Him!

“But if we hope for what we do not yet see, we wait for it patiently. In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know how we ought to pray, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groans too deep for words. And He who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God.” Romans 8:25-27

The Power of His Intercession

Did you see that? Did you catch the power of HIS intercession! He intercedes for the saints according to the will of God! He is God and of course He knows the very mind of God!  The Spirit of God  knows exactly how to pray His perfect will in our lives! Those deep groanings can be embarrassing to our dignity, but they are powerful, perfect, and mightly productive.

I mean really, what’s more vulnerable than spilling your deepest weaknesses out before a friend? Why not go first boldly to The Friend who sticks closer than a brother (Prov.18:24b); to The Friend who has  laid down His life that we might be able to run to Him in times like these? (see John 15:19)

He is welcoming us to bring all of our broken desperation to Him first- and in private!  You may  hear groanings coming out of the depths of your being. That is good! You are hearing HIM praying for you, with you, and through you the very heart and will of The Heavenly Father! The greatest religious tragedy of our day is that we don’t know how to pray. We have heard it taught that tongues of intercession have ceased! This is a lie from the pit of Hell! Satan is terrified of you groaning with Jesus in intercession for your life and the lives of others! If you do pray Satan wants you to try to make it eloquent, dignified and  therefore powerless. He wants you to leave your prayer time feeling as though God didn’t listen or that you don’t know how to pray anyway.  He knows that Jesus, The Great Intercessor, is releasing heaven and earth shaking groanings for us before the Throne of God and we are invited to join in! That enemy of God doesn’t want us to know that we can come boldly before the Throne of Grace  by the blood of Jesus to make intercession with Him!  In doing this we are pulling God’s perfect will in heaven into the earth (Matt. 6:10)! We are taking our rightful inherited place of dominion!  Satan knows that once the sons and daughters of God grasp this key the kingdom of darkness is done!

Let your Guts Groan

I challenge you today to make a ‘war room’ in an ‘inner room’ of your house; where you can go and just let your guts groan with the Lord daily. You will find less and less desperation to need others to pray for you and more and more the longing to pray with The Spirit of God Himself! Your strength will rise and you will soar with Him in heavenly places! (See Ephesians 2:6)  You will know more and more your identity as HIS child,  because you are communing with God before His very Thone daily! This will be your ‘daily bread’ or substance for life!  You will be desperate, hungry, and longing for Him!

Give it at least 20 minutes a day to begin with. Eventually,  you will find yourself wanting for more time in that secret place.  Resist every thought of  distraction. Turn off your phone and rebuke feelings of embarrassment or doubt. These feelings and thoughts often come  in these first 15-20 minutes, they are just the enemy’s lies and his attempt to try to get you to give up or get distracted. Don’t listen to a liar.  Listen to the voice of Truth, His voice,  break in!

 

Pray this, Father, I am desperate fill me to overflow from the inside out! Baptize me with more that just  water, but with Holy Spirit and Fire according to Matthew 3:11; pray for me and though me according to Romans 8:26! I am desperate for You!

Now, let Him be God! Be a doer of the Word not a hearer only!

Let me know how you are growing in intimacy with God! Share this post to help others!

Blessings

Tammie!

In addition to functioning  as a full-time ordained minister, evangelist, and youth pastor  Tammie Southerland is a Certified Life Coach and Biblical Counselor, and she specializes in deep inner healing and breaking free those bound by sexual abuse, addictions, self-harm, and sexual sin. Having experienced the pain of sexual abuse personally she is able to offer empathy as sell as a sympathy but also a honest look at the victory that can be attained though, first and for most, relationship with Christ and then proper biblical counseling and inner-healing. At this time Tammie is also empowering those within in the ministry to reach beyond just personal victory into helping and ministering to others.
Part of the Frontline Ministries mission is to train up a generation in the ministry of Jesus Christ and this goal includes training them to counsel others with sound biblical methods. In September of 2014 Frontline Ministries will offer publicly a program called from “Worthless to Worthy”.  Tammie has been leading young ladies through this program for years as the Lord brings them to her.  This is a intense 6 week counseling program that makes way for deep healing and instills and awakens true God given worth, value, and destiny. This program offers a transition out of needing personal one-on-one professional counseling (victim/ feelings of worthlessness) into being a part of and even leading Peer Group Studies (victor/revelation of worthiness) and  as of September 2014  FM will offer a third level that can lead into a certificate in Lay Biblical Counseling or Biblical Studies. The idea is to not only to  heal deep wounds but to offer  depth into the Word of God, to transform, and transition the whole person in to his or her God given destiny.

“We are all worthy of the calling but we fall short if we do not know our worth! Our personal worth is found in the person of Jesus Christ. In Christ all I can do all things! In Christ I am accepted and not rejected! In Christ I have destiny! In Christ I an NOT Worthless but I am Worthy!” ~ Charity (Worthless to Worthy Graduate)[envira-gallery id=”462″]